Future – a quick conversation

07Mar11

Conversations all over the place.
Having these conversations every so often. You know, the what would you do if you only had x amount of time left to live.
Jeremy says it’s good if he stays well. Sure it takes him an age to walk down the hall, an even greater age to shower and get dressed, but he can cope with all that if he is well.
I asked him if there were things he wanted to do….overseas travel is pretty well ruled out now because he couldn’t get any insurance. Local travel? Well he has some ideas.
A pity that he can’t get to the Czech Republic to see Jana and Vlad (Max’ lovely parents), but they were planning on coming at the end of the year. Can they come sooner? He hopes so, although summer time in the northern hemisphere is tricky for them as they have a modest house but more importantly a garden in the country that gives them lots of food for the months ahead.
Jeremy said he realized last time that he loves work. He wants to stay connected with his colleagues and that is evident in his visits. Although he is not actively doing work he asks questions, gives advice and opinions and his views are sought. He wants to stay connected although he is realistic in knowing that he can’t really do work for a least the next 3 months, and that is dependent on him being well.
For instance there is an Indigenous conference that he would like to get to in a week or so.

He also said this morning that he is not so focused on the next thing, the next tumor, manifestation of this disease…he thought he would be more so.

Writing this on my iPad while he is in the shower. Decided that there is so much going on in my head that I want to write these snippets down. A journal of sorts…..or wait….a blog?

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2 Responses to “Future – a quick conversation”

  1. I think it’s wonderful that you are having these conversations together – this is a really difficult time (understatement of the year) and it’s SO important to have straightforward, honest conversations – and Jeremy may not be able to have those with everybody, some people find that kind of honesty from a seriously ill person difficult or even impossible.

    Quick personal story, when my girlfriend’s son had the brain tumor my role was to be the one she could have honest conversations with. Stuff like ‘where can I have the funeral’ (months before he died) – tough but really, really necessary for her and (as I came to later understand) for me too.

    Oh Kate, I am so sad for you, but this time you are spending with your brother is so very special. Biggest hugs xx

  2. 2 bookgrrl

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I love how in this difficult time Jeremy is focusing on life and what he wants to do and most importantly, sharing these moments with you.

    Take care
    xo


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