Leaves. Bike. Basket.
lunchtime ponderings….
Since Jeremy died I have sometimes felt angry, often felt sad, but importantly feel that I am in a gentler place.
Since Jeremy died my relationship with my sister has improved, and I don’t think this is a temporary thing. We have a genuine love and concern for each other and don’t just wait till we have to contact each other.
Since Jeremy died – in fact before Jeremy died my relationship, certainly my dealings with my parents have been very frank but caring, loving. Only today my dad described me in an email as a “lovely, wise and sensitive daughter”…
I had a lovely email from one of Jeremy’s children last night – we now say things to each other I don’t think we ever would have ever dreamed to reveal.
We just seem more open. Certainly more sensitive. Certainly more gentle.
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What beautiful testimonials of a type. Thanks for sharing, Ruth
This is a beautiful post. In a few short words, you have said more than most of us in 6 days
After my mother died, my brother and I stopped being so angry with each other and began talking again. We weren’t estranged, we just weren’t connected.
After my mother died, my best friend and I drifted apart. She didn’t get it and her not getting it made me angry and resentful.
Death changes relationships in all sorts of ways.
it does doesn’t it. Thankfully my relationships have changed for the better and I hope that continues. Sorry about your best friend – that’s life I guess, isn’t it…
Thanks.
Yes, it is ‘life’ and I think my relationships changed for the better too. It sounds harsh to write it like this, but in terms of the ‘best’ friend: if that was the best I could do, it wasn’t good enough any more. I needed more, she couldn’t give it. It’s about knowing who you are and what matters to you… and it seems that death has a way of showing us what matters to us (rather dramatically unfortunately!).